“When are you going home?”
As a traveler you hear this question and variations of it on an almost daily basis. It’s assumed that travel is temporary and that there is a place where you feel that you will one day return. It’s assumed that you will throw in the nomadic towel once you have the travel out of your system and settle down into a life of normality, likely in that place called home.
Maybe this will be my home one day!
I grew up in South East London. When asked where home is I tend to say London but in reality it’s more just habit to say so. My family home is no longer there, many of my friends have moved on and although there is a close affinity with London and the UK I do feel a little lost there. I’m not sure that home really is London at all.
In fact I don’t really know where Home is and maybe, just maybe, I am destined to wander the world until my end of days.
Home for me is fragmented. A piece of every place I live finds a place in that definition of home. Home is Canada, USA, Egypt, New Zealand and UK. Maybe Hungary will be the next place to elbow it’s way into that list.
I may well return to the UK one day, I may well give up my slow nomadic life. It’s absolutely expected by everyone that I will. People say things like “you’ll know when it’s time to settle” and “you’ll get sick of all the moving in the end” and that may well be true but these nuggets of wisdom often come from people who have not lived a nomadic life or understand the lifestyle.
I am not planning my future place of residence. I am not planning stopping traveling and living in new countries but if the stop comes I don’t feel this will be good or bad, it will be what it is.
We are pressured to do a lot of things in life and expectation from others often applies strain on us to do things like return home or settle down.
I’m certainly not advocating selfishness. If you need to return to the place you refer to as home to look after someone or tend to important business then of course you should. If you truly miss the place you grew up or feel a real draw to a place as ‘home’ then don’t fight it, go home.
Now, if you are like me, then don’t fall to the expectation, stay free and keep flying.
What do you think?